Hi, snottycat. The only reason that would absolutely force me to divorce any woman is adultery. Beleive me, for the past 12 years, I have seen stars, my bells have been rung, but I have been always patient, good, never looked at the fact that I am taking care of the kids most of the time (she is outside as I am writing this message) and spending all my money on the house, the kids and her. I earn 4 times as much as she does, but I drop of the kids to school in the morning and pick them up in the evening after work, while she jealously and selfishly stay outside, in the malls, enjoying the good life. Every time I attempt to get her to contribute financially or timewise, she tells me to pretend that she is not there, that I ought to be able to do everything by myself. She will wait until 11:30 PM to come home (when she is sure that I have taken care of everything, homework, feeding, etc... and that the kids are in bed). That is fine with me because I love my kids. But now that I want custody of the kids, she is up in arms, arguing that kids stay with their moms. She is threatening me with fire and brimstone if I even think about taking the kids. Again, even with all those habits, I would have still stayed with her, were it not for that affair she is been having. Initially, I did not have any proof, but after 3 1/2 years of telling her that I did not feel comfortable with that relationship (alleged friendship) with that man, I finally got a breakthrough and uncovered the truth. Now we are headed full bore towards divorce. Unfortunately, the courts do not care one bit about who is at fault and she might very well get the kids.

Thanks for your comment! Sorry it took me so long to reply, I've been working on other aspects of my life. It seems that sometime after the divorce we realize there is more than suffering. Who knew? ;) Good luck to you, and I hope that things get better. The people here are some great folks.

You're quite welcome. I hope all works out for ya!