LOL...if only it were the lucky razor...I would give one to everybody here...lol...I think I just got incredibly lucky. I also think that even though I questioned the hell out of my instincts, they were leading me the right way even when I doubted them.

I just read a blog (posted a few days ago about having an honest conversation) and I read your comment and OMG it sounded like you were describing my stbx to a tee!! My stbx is totalling incapable of being honest about ANYTHING! And yes, he'll say things that he thinks others want to hear to because there's always an ulterior motive (to benefit himself). He has an excuse for everything, and anything wrong is due to someone else, never, ever him. Anywho - got your note on my wall, thank you. I'm doing okay...waiting to hear back from the judge (stbx didn't make his extension). I've read a few comments of yours here and there, hope you're doing okay. ((hugs))

Thanks. I agree with you. A lot of people who know him have told me to let the money go. They have told me that he knows where I live and they think that if I get what he owes me by contract he'll kill me. I thought we had an ok marriage. I knew there were problems but didn't think they were enough to get a divorce. Then when he left I asked him a few questions, since I quickly started figuring things out, and he shot me a look of pure hatred. I had never seen that before and didn't even expect it. It was so shocking that I refused to believe it and kept thinking i must have been mistaken. I was in a state of shock. As I sat there he outlined to me all the ways he had deceived me and planned everything to inflict the maximum possible hurt. Compassion? He has nothing good inside of him. People who are that evil will use the compassion to make themselves even more evil. They're still accepted, right? So why not be even more evil? It's like when the young horse I'm training bites me. If I say 'good boy', he'll do it more. I think I might write that on the blog. Some people are so dense.