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Michael and I met on the strip on Long Island. He was beautiful, My sister had eyes on him. Seeing as she was better looking then me I thought she would get him. He asked her about me. I was in heaven. Michael was the most gorgeous man I ever met.


Before the problem the marriage was like walking on fragile ice. We got along great while we were dating the sex was awesome. We had so much in common music, cars etc. There was always the pink elephant in the room though. We just ignored it.


That very first year. We had moved away from our family. Our family and friends living in other states. We worked retail and worked different shifts. He would always come home and tell me a woman was interested in him at work. My insecurity got worse.  He watched so much porn he hid it like a dirty secret. He thought I was a good girl and wanted to protect me.  I became so insecure worse then I had ever been. I could never look right.


We separated the first time in 1998 he had had two affairs from women he met in chat rooms on the internet his friends Perry was doing the same thing. And they would brag how they got away with it. We would meet up and try to work it out then he would push me away during that time I found out I was pregnant 8 weeks later I lost our child. We got back together again only to be in the same boat in 2005.


In the beginning my greatest fear was the marriage ending in divorce and everyone saying I told you so. There were no divorces in my family. My worse fear was that he comitted suicide before me in 2005


Communitcation is so important. Make a date night just you two. Even if you have to sit on the porch for some alone time. Don't loose date night. Remember before work and the kids you dated and loved and lusted each other.


The divorce never became final. We were living seperated not legally we did not have the money to do. So we stayed in seperate rooms. I worked days and he worked nights. We grew more and more apart. The hardest part was loosing him as a friend and the good memories.


Don't mud sling. If you have children don't use them like pawns in a game. Your going to screw them up.


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