My Story ::  momof4

How Did You Meet?

We met when he was in medical school and I was in nursing school.

Describe your marriage before the problem.

Happy and in love.  I thought no ne could be as lucky or in love as much as we were. 

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

His residency was difficult and long.  He put in long hours and at this point we had 3 kids and one on the way.  I thought our relationship would all go back to normal once the stress of the residency was over.  He seemed happy with us and he loved the kids.  We moved to our dream house and all seemed to be going well, I thought.  We added a beautiful baby to our family and a dog.  We spent the weekends on our boat and spent a lot of time with the kids.   Then I found out he was having an affair with a nurse at work.  He moved out and then begged me to forgive him and I did.  We got counseling and our marriage seemed stronger than it was.....I still had some issues about him lieing to me, but I was moving forward. I confided in a friend that I had made about almost everything.  She was my support and best friend thru it all.  I later found out she befriended me, because she and my husband were having an affair.  They betrayed me and her husband. She took everything I felt or said and switched words around and he believed her over me., and she had him believing I was planning on leaving him even before I knew about thier affair.

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

I took the kids and left him.  Filed for divorce ( I am divorced now) and  have tried to regain trust in people in general.  He married her and she is miserable and wants to leave him, but she is looking for the next "Sugar Daddy" to take care of her, so he is in the dark about her plans to leave him.

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

The hardest part was being betrayed by 2 people I thought loved me and had my best intrest at heart.  The constant lieing right to my face and feeling no remorse for it even to this day.

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?

One tip is to put yourself first.  Think what is best for you because you are your own best advocate.  Listen to your inner voicie.  Keep moving forward.  You can never go back.