My Story ::  jones

How Did You Meet?

We met via my room mate that hooked us up.  I was not interested at first because he was younger than me, but he was soo cute

Describe your marriage before the problem.

I have to admit, we stopped having fun, there was no spunk, i found him unattractive and our sex life really stank.  We were in a routine and not enjoying what we had. 

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

I didn't realize, until he told me that he was unhappy.  And every time we talked about his unhappiness, the length of time would increase from a year, to two years, to five years.  I did ask if there was someone else, he said no.  I tried to be better, more attentive, more loving, more affectionate.  But it was too late. He was having an affair. Things really did not get better, so he finally told me, about her and that did I want to try to make it work.  Yes, was my answer.  But he needed to give up his girlfriend.  Unfortunately or fortunately he did not.  so he finally moved out in March of 2008 And he filed for divorce this week. 

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

gosh, that a hard one.  I think I should taken more control and filed for divorce, not go into debt as much as i did.  Be more firm with my daughter--who hates me and lives with her father

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

of never being loved again.  I spend way too much time alone now and I fear that will be the way it alway will be.  all alone, forever

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

I wish i would have treated my husband better, I wish i would have forced him to have fun. i wish he was a better lay.

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?