My Story ::  hunny

How Did You Meet?

At a VFW dance.

Describe your marriage before the problem.

One-sided, I did everything for him and children.  He had his interests and sometimes those interests benefitted me.

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

I always knew that we were very different not only in ethics but everything that I hold dear.  He is a bad boy and that was a very intoxicating attraction for me.  I thought, though, by his words and sometimes deeds, that he loved me as I so thought loved him.  Truth be told, for many years it was lust not love and then that failed.  After all that we went through, I found out that he never cared about me and he was perpetrating a lie and it took him 28 years to finally grow a pair and admit some of it directly to me.  He told our 27 year old son that he was never happy with me and was trying for years to drive me away.  A real peach, huh!

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

We are divorcing and I am trying very hard to not be bitter about the years spent in such a total emotionally abusive and loveless relationship.  I really allowed this.  I have work to do on myself!

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

My finances and being alone for the first time in my life.  Starting over at the age of 58 is a mystery.  Loving myself puts a grin on my face for the first time in my life.

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

Handle your financial business first. 
Don't communicated him.

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

Not yet.

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?