My Story ::  gumba

How Did You Meet?

This man had absolutely nothing when I married him;  I was not looking for material things.  Foolishly no pre nup.  I had a home, paid for, health benefits, of which he had none, an excellent position, no debt, a new auto, and on and on.

Describe your marriage before the problem.

I had been divorced for five years and loved living alone.  In the back of my mind something told me not to marry him.  We did not live together before being wed.  He must always be the victim and the hero.  His lies are outlandish.
What he tells others about me are such lies, and make me look as though I do not want this to "work".  How foolish.  He was involved with another woman while dating me, and lied about it for 20 years.  Then the next affair I caught was with a woman who has the most filthy mouth I have ever heard in my life.  I was threatened, and never defended.  I just want him out of my life, but he will not leave.  I purchased the home we are in now, and he is living the good life, but telling everyone I cannot live here alone, with wood and pellet stove.  As though he is doing me a favor.  Please.          

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

Through his lying, not liking anyone, and living with a woman and her four children he said was his cousin, and I was so so stupid to believe him.

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

I have spoken to lawyers, and he will come away from this with half.  Came with nothing, leaves with full benefits from his cushy job.  I supported him for over two years, and on and on.

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

That he will take everything away from me that I have worked my entire life for.  I even borrowed against my annuity to keep us going while he did not work.  Just paid it off. $50.000.   All I hear is all he did around here.  Am I being unreasonable?

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

Always get a prenup and be sure you know the man, thoroughly.  Go with gut feelings.

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?