My Story ::  fivenfinal

How Did You Meet?

We met through a mutual friend.    

Describe your marriage before the problem.

Before the marriage he was extremely attentive. Brought me breakfast in bed with flowers, showered me with affection, dazzled me with his wit and intelligence. He was a professional who knew a lot of the same people I knew. We just seemed to fit. Was always interested in learning new things, traveling, playing golf etc.

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

It began surfacing in our first year of marriage. He started talking down to me even though we were on equal footing in our careers.

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

I would either let is slide or make a funny joke about the behavoir. It was just confusing to me. I was pregnant and too busy to really make issue of it but the behavoir worsened over time.  it was really insidious. One day i woke up and realized i was slowing being beaten into the ground. I tried four times to divorce, but he  managed to talk me into staying. I have been in a seperate bedroom for over a year and we have maybe had sex once in the last 6 years. I feel the only reason I am here is to be his bankroll. I have not been unfaithful. I am just too stressed out and tired. I have no self esteem left.

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

My greatest fear is getting through the process. He is a rabid dog and I am a conflict avoider.

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?