OK, I'm just gona do it....I mean SAY it...

March 23 2009

14 loooong years.  This sucks.

well, its been over a year for me now.. wow who would have thunk it???.. not me.. oh well. the next guy should be worried.. lol

june 17, 2006. that was the last time i got any.what is even sader is that idon't want any unless it is with the same persn that i gat it from the last time( give you three guess who) even sadder, i'm a guy. and to top that i use'd to have a porn addiction that i broke after30 years. still have the 'HUNGER" but can't bring myself to approuch or get involved with anyone because they are'nt her and i feel like i would be commiting a sin. besides, you women scair the hell out of me!

Kevino, did you even read this thread?

Not bad advice, but it's something we all pretty much know.  And talk about a wet blanket!

Have a little fun, buddy.

Hi Kevino here.  Sex is a small portion of life but it is important.  Donot let it control you.  Sex is what makes relationships wholesome and break apart.  Disease is another factor to consider.  This is an area where your mind must rule and not your heart...................Get a hobby, be busy, volunteer do whatever to make yourself more secure and positive and powerful.  Concentrate on your health, you will not regret it.  Take care of your urgings yourself.  But be carefull as there is danger in sex with strangers.

Counting days?  Hell no.  That's what God made spreadsheets for.

I can't believe you counted the days. It's been a while for me but I'm not about whip out the calendar and count days.

lol thanks for the smile, girlie. Its been about 16 months- 17 for me!! It was easy at first, but now its only getting more difficult!! I totally miss the "act" and feel, as well! *sigh*  lol

dag i really feel bad then cause even though we going threw it boy o boy.... good girls never tell;) lol

ok, i was so occupied gussying myself up for my grocery store run i let it slip... i will be wandering the grocery store aisles wondering where i should start....lol...

Yeah 2much...  you confused me with that DK cheer, but I was just starting here so I didn't know any better... I thought it was some code word and so I spent endless hours searching for a key... instead of in a gym or at least wondering the grocery store aisles... anybody wanna go pick up some cereal?... ROTFLMAO....

Wow, this post has been going on for a long time. So I have some ideas that don't involve rabbits. I don't know how you look, and you may all be fabulous. But if you're not looking your best, get yourself a personal trainer and whip that body into shape. No one wants someone who doesn't take care of themselves. Go to Sephora or a department store and get a makeover. Go to a salon and get a new hairstyle. It may be sad, but looks count, and it isn't only about being beautiful or having a great figure, although that increases your options. Everyone likes someone with a lot of self confidence. Be friendly. Join a club for anything that interests you - golfing, hiking, wine tasting, whatever you like. Quilting clubs don't count, you won't find men there. Go to the grocery store on a Friday right after work. THat's when the men without a partner go, and since they are actually cooking for themselves, these are the men you want. Talk to everyone. Make lots of friends. I make friends with everyone, men, women, children and people old enough to be my grandparents. People are people. There are so many whose packaging might have faded who can enrich your life. Once you get out of your own circle you can meet other people. Maybe the neighborhood kids have a hot uncle. Hearing about the fun lady next door could result in an introduction. Maybe the woman at the checkout counter knows a hot guy. That's what happened to my friend. She made friends with the checkout lady who introduced her to her now husband. As for me, you don't want to hear it. It's been at least a week. I'm getting divorced and have a boyfriend, but had the flu. A week is killing me, so I don't know how I put up with my ex turning me down all the time. Should have left him years ago. I don't do online dating. I meet men in unusual places, like the library or whitewater rafting. I take really good care of myself and have confidence. You can do it. Look at all the couples. Are they all incredibly gorgeous? no.

I am pleading the 5th....lol

well, for me it has been 3 weeks - yes, i have a really nice toy that is willing any time and afterward i don't have to make food for or bring a drink :)

yes, i like it a bunch :)

I seem to have made an error.  (Damn, first one this year...ha ha)  I credited DK with this blog.

Elane, I apologize.  This is your blog, and you are the immortal one.  Long live Elane!!

OMG people!!! Its only been 2 months and Im already feeling the "pain". Lol. My plan, once my baby is feeling better and I can devote a little time to myself, is to hit the local goody store and get me one of those nice toys to play with. After all, christmas can come in March, cant it? On another note, 2 months may not seem long, but the truth is I can count on my fingers how many times my HB and I had sex this year. Less than one dozen! And, on another note, I am not a believer in casual sex, but its sounding kinda nice right about now.....lol. Jk!!

I think this blog will live forever...and it should.

DK...You're immortal.

I remember this spot..!! LOL This blog was so much fun. 2 much I see you still like it too...This was one of the first blogs we all opened up and started talking about the sexual thoughts of divorce and marriage....And taking care of certain matters. We shared, laughed and got to know one another..... VERY... educational too..!!! I sure did learn alot..Thanks everyone. Sexual matters are not easily discussed.

A sorry lot, all of us.

hehe...ain't we a pathetic bunch...lol...

Got out the old memory book, geeze I would like to say not since the conception of the 9 year old.  We did try some after, I would guess the las time it meant anything was about 5 years ago, before I got let go from my employer.  We still did, but it was never the same.

hmm... let me think... for... hmm... ever... on our wedding nite he enjoyed soccer match replay on tv but not before he handed me a newspaper... i could never say he wasn't a gentelman...lol...

That's pretty bad.  Mine was similar, back when we did it at all.  How long did this go on?

Hmm... I might just have ya' all beat if you agree to calculating the average per year... how 'bout once every six weeks and god forbid more...unless he got angry, then six weeks plus time it took me to apologize...