Should I wear my wedding band while I am separated from my husband?

It's up to you.
A wedding bad is a symbol of commitment so I can personally see no reason to carry on wearing it while separating or going through a divorce.
I stopped wearing my ring as soon as we decided we no longer wanted to be united in matrimony. My ex continued wearing his for a while longer for reasons of his own (I never understood him).

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I have just decided after I had filed a couple of months ago and I was no longer emotionally tied to my husband to stop wearing the ring.  No chance at getting back together but after all that I went through with him, I am keepig my ring.  This is not an issue with him- we agreed to each keep our own jewelry- he has as just about as much as me!

I just asked my STBX wife to return her wedding band and engagement band to me today, the same day I asked her to move out. She wants the divorce but also wants to keep the "image" that we (2 kids; 10 and 7) are still together. I had finally had enough, she found a place and signed a lease this weekend so I was adament that she move out today. No reason to keep the sherade going on, I'm ready to move on. The rings mean a committment between two people, not only one.

She quit wearing her ring as soon as she told me she didn't love me. Her ring really became a symbol of our union, and it was a pefect way of telling me it was over. I noticed immediately. So I suppose it can really get your point across if the other person is sensitive about it.

Do what feels right to you.  I wore mine the first two times we separated.  But the third and final time, I didn't.  I knew I was done trying.  I was done being lied to and cheated on.

It really does depend on the person.  A ring may symbolize more of the emotional connection to many people, and for me it was the same.  In the beginning, I loved my ring, wanted everyone to know that I was in love and married.  As things slacked between us, I noticed there were times I wouldn't even think to put it on.  He would be the one to notice and bring it up.  My ring would be the direct reflection almost of my frustration in my relationship.  Now that we are on the brink of divorce, I never wear it.  I still would not feel right even thinking of becoming involved with someone else until everything is said and done, but not wearing my ring doesn't lose me any sleep at night....

When I was married to my first ex I wore wedding rings. I didn't always wear them. I worked in a factory that made parts for Ford and It wasn't safe to wear rings at work. When we separated I put them away.
With my current ex I never wore rings. I didn't need a ring to remind me of my committment. I knew I was married. Also I was allergic to something in the gold. My fingers would swell or shrink with the seasons and my fingers would turn green or black. The skin would peel off that finger. I lost the first wedding band feeding the horses. It had gotten loose in the heat and slipped off. I never found it. I still do not wear jewelry.

Even though my wife and I are still together, I took mine off shortly after i found out she was having an affair.  She still wears hers - mostly for appearances I think.  Seems to me that it lost it's meaning.  When I took it off, I thought to myself I would put it back on when we resolved some things and got our relationship back on track.  Almost two years later, she has never said anything about me not wearing my ring and she has made little effort to rebuild our marriage.   I think my ring is going to stay off permanently.

If I had the choice, I would still be wearing mine- but he took it from me .
 Jackson is right though, "when it feels right".
You'll make the best decision for yourself :)

You need to do what is comfortable for you.  When my husband and I separated we both still wore our rings.  Then when he made the decison to divorce (but it was not final yet) I gave it about 3 weeks and then decided to do it in stages (for that was better for me).  I stopped wearing my engagement ring first and just wore my wedding band.  Then in a few months I stopped wearing my wedding band too and had nothing on.  As others have said I realized that the rings meant nothing to me anymore for the marriage was over.  About 2 months after that my husband (who ironically wanted the divorce) finally stopped wearing his ring.  In all you need to do what is right for you.  There is no protocol, no right or wrong answer.  You take it off when you feel okay with that.  I also took the next step and sold my rings.  I figured I would NEVER wear them again and why keep them in a drawer forever when they meant nothing to me now.  Plus the extra cash always comes in handy during a divorce when everthing seems to cost money.  Just be prepared....people notice when you don't have your rings on.....weird, but true.  So if you are not ready for everyone to know than I would consider wearing it for now.  Just something to keep in mind.  Good luck!  Remember rings are just material things and once they lose meaning to you they are just that....material things.

Im still wear my ring an weve been legaly seperated for over 3 months now
ive tried taking it off but it just didnt feel right at all.

I decided to take my rings off when I realized that I was wearing something that used to mean the world to me, but it didnt anymore. I vowed to love, honor, and cherish him and the rings were a symbol of that vow.
 I used to wonder why he said he didnt want a ring, that should have been a clue. He didnt want to have to keep up with it in his pocket.
 One day I will get the diamond in my ring set to a neclace or something else but for now they are in my jewelry box.

I wear mine on my right hand now. More for what it symbolizes and I kept my promise to him I made the day I put it on. I will take it off when all is said & done but for now it is a reminder of what not to do again.
 Wear it if you wnt to, and wear it for what ever reason you wnat to. I don't think there is any right or wrong in that. It is your ring. You earned it fair & square.

I would say that will have to be your choice. When you feel the relationship is over then take it off.
If you are like me you will take it off, then put it on, off again...it took a while for me to leave it off.
Hard step...funny thing a little ring symbolizes so much, huh?

I am still wearing my ring, because I believe God can restore anything that is meant to be. If he doesn't then I will take it off when the divorce is final. When in doubt leave it out.

God Bless!

Hello aley, you do what you feel is right for you! I was married for over 29 years when I filed for divorce in April of this year I took my ring off that day. My soon to be ex husband put his ring back on at night when he was home, really stupid cause I new he was taking his ring off at work already. I would go visit him there and he would take his ring out of his pants and turn around until he had it on.

I think everyone here has the right answer.  It's a decision that you have to make because it is such a personal decision.  Everyone is different.  My husband is in the process of filing and has not only taken his ring off, but is representing himself as "single" on his MySpace page and more.  What's interesting is that we still live in the same house, we still profess our love to one another and we are still grappling with the idea of staying together.  Although he insists that we cannot be together, his actions voice otherwise.  I asked him his reasons for not wearing the ring and his answer was simple:  It was too painful to look at because it reminded him too much of me.  We are on very amicable terms and I am hopeful for reconciliation.  So with that, I am still wearing my ring and still trying to make it work.  It's a hard issue for anyone in positions like ours.  You just have to do what is right for you at the time and get through it with strength.  My best of luck to you.

I can only answer for myself, and I took my ring off.  It was too painful to keep on, knowing that the person you loved, is no longer the person you can trust to love.  At least for me...

I agree with Jackson.  When it's time, you'll know.  MyUnwife she took hers off a few days before she told me she wanted a divorce.  She told me later that that was how she knew.  Me?  I'm still wearing mine.  I made a vow, and I'll stick with it until the end. Technically I'm still married, so I'll wear the ring.  The divorce finalizes at the end of July though, and on that day, I'll remove my ring.

Everybody has an answer to this. Pray, search your heart, you'll find the right one.

I decided to take mine off. For me, it symbolized a new freedom and begining. I wanted to get used to not wearing one as soon as I could and show myself that I no longer needed it - I am myself - independent. I've been married since I was 19 - for 14 years now and I felt dependent on him in so many ways- even for my own identity. I want my divorce to be a reawaking for me. All the things I ever wanted to do and couldn't, all the ideas I supressed, and all the dreams I didn't pursue can all be in the forefront again. Changes in life are what you make them. I'm sick of hurting and I want to be cheerful and positive - both for myself and my son. 
    Good luck to you whatever you decide and I hope things are cheerful and positive for you very soon.

i think its really up to you when it feels right.  I have friends who have kept wearing the ring after the divorce - not because they still had feelings, but because they had jobs that put them in the public and liked the "avoidance" factor the ring provided.... 

When it feels right, take it off, or move it to the right hand / diff finger?