division of property/alimony

Hi, I am really confused what I should do. I am really stuck in a marriage. I feel completely alianated. I am not even comfortable in my own home. My sister in-law lives 10 minutes from us. She has a horse on our property. She is strapped for cash so we don't charge her for anything. She comes over EVERYDAY after work. If not everyday, the minimuum of every other day. She never calls when she is coming over. She always comes at the time my husband is coming home from work. I have epilepsy and can't work or drive so I am home alone all day. They talk for hours and hours about things I don't know about, so can't get involved and they never ask about things I like. We lived together for 1yr before we started looking for our own home. I helped pick it out, but it closed before we said I do. My name is not on the title. My disabilty check is only $600 a month. My seizures got worse while married so I had to file for disability
I can't afford to move out. So, now stuck in a very unhappy marriage. Isn't there something I can do? If he paid alimony I could make it. BUt, I don't know if I have grounds.
Oh, I have asked him to spend more time with me, and ask his sister not to come over as much. He told me I was jealous of her. :(

by martini 2 Posts
Posted on 2/12/2008 12:54 PM

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If you can, get some friends or relatives to come over everyday and do the same thing to him until he gets the message.

by boatman2 14 Posts
Posted on 3/22/2009 5:28 PM

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Its really nice that he has a close relationship with his sister.
Of course he is putting his sister first - her love is unconditional and forever - you on the other hand are planning to divorce him. So his relationship with you is just temporary.
So it makes perfect sense that he invests his time with her and not with you.
Good for him.

by peace99 145 Posts
Posted on 12/31/2008 1:51 AM

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If you can try and get your husband to open up and discuss the situation.Maybe you could ask that when she comes over to cut down on the time because you would like to be with him. I know that people can be hard to talk to, but you shouldn't keep living in misery. Have you asked him how he feels about his sister coming over and why she should everyday?

by climbingmymtn 12 Posts
Posted on 11/3/2008 1:06 AM

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my husband lied about who he was and tricked me into marring him and now he has cleaned me out. I have no where to go and can't stay in a home with a rotten evil man that might hurt me if he thinks I will try to deport him.

by artist34 4 Posts
Posted on 7/16/2008 9:48 PM

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I stayed just till my kiddo said..hey mom...what is up with you and dad. BAD situation...no friends/no family/just me and kiddo. I filed a year ago and i am unable to work much due to several health issues...and so I am waiting (court ordered to remain in the home very bad situation for me and my special needs child) for him to stop being greedy and the court recognize he is a liar and cheater ...just hang on hun...no advise..but you are NOT alone!

by cherisheddream 11 Posts
Posted on 5/31/2008 9:16 AM

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Hi, I'm sorry to hear you are in a similar situation to mine. Its terrible to be in an unhappy marriage with no friends or support system around. I know firsthand, unfortunately, its what I'm going through now. Is your husband open minded if you go to him with your feelings? You have every right to feel upset. Hopefully he is a half way decent communicator and cares, and will listen to you. If not, do you have any friends you can stay with? Even if short term? I'm so sorry about your situation. Hang in there, you are not alone. I too, am in in a terrible marriage. I'm lucky a friend is lending me a hand to get out, but I have to leave all my furniture and alot of the belongings we have accumulated over 10 years. But I finally realized material things aren't worth my mental health. I wish you the best.

by JJ 4 Posts
Posted on 2/22/2008 8:19 PM

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this sounds like a sad situation for you. do you have any other choices? can you live with family or friends? can you consider going to counseling? it sounds like he may want to try to make things better for you, have you told him how you feel?

by Vicki 856 Posts
Posted on 2/12/2008 1:27 PM

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