Christmas gifts?

I'm going on my 3rd Christmas now with my ex. The first 2 I still so badly missed and loved her but now I get sick at the thought of her. She left for someone else, we tried to reconcile over the Summer, but she left to go back to that guy again. We have 2 children,(5 yr old son and 4 yr old daughter). The first 2 yrs I would get something for her "from the kids", but I can't even bring myself to put a thought about getting something for her because it means I have to be "thoughtful" towards her. I know the right answer is to get her something from the kids again, but what? What do you get someone you want only to see eternally miserable?

by manipulated_one 23 Posts
Posted on 10/22/2009 10:27 AM

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I don't know. My kids can ask my wife's boyfriend for money to purchase a gift for their mother. There is and never will be any discussion thought or communication to or about their mother around me. I will not lift one finger of any kind to show kindness to my stbx. Not for the kids the dog the cat hell or for anything for that matter. I have no emtotions for and never will and I want to leave that chick in the dirt.

by gregory1969 225 Posts
Posted on 10/28/2009 12:16 PM

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Last year was the first Christmas that I had no desire to buy that "gift from the kids" for my stbx. I took the kids to the local family dollar store, handed them each some money that they had to earn, and let THEM pick something out for their father. They actually did pretty good, each buying a grill utensil, making a set between them. Best part, i did not have to muster up any thought or emotion over someone I had none for. And the gift was truly from the kids.

by doneforgood 20 Posts
Posted on 10/23/2009 5:10 AM

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Remember that you are doing for the kids, not for her. You are giving your kids a gift actually, and in the long run they will remember it. I like the idea about the coffee mugs. You can even take them to a ceramics place, get it done in an hour and have a great memory with your kids.

by greengrass 113 Posts
Posted on 10/22/2009 10:43 PM

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I agree. Something from the kids would be just fine. It doesn't have to be elaborate. You need to put your feelings aside at this time.
As a mom, I know I enjoyed the gifts my children made the most. They put so much time and effort into it. Your kids are young and the holidays are probably a special time for them.

by Fooledmeonce 3 Posts
Posted on 10/22/2009 10:29 PM

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If you are buying from the kids you have to put your head into theirs - you can't let your adult issues spoil their love for their mother, so the gifts need to be thoughtful.

Does she drink coffee? Get some kits to decorate mugs and they can make a special gift for her. Maybe a set of 4 mugs - two made by each.

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 10/22/2009 11:35 AM

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