So sad

My wife and best friend of 12 years has been moved out for over a year. I feel like I am losing everything in my life. We use to share so much, and now I find it hard to go anywhere, or do anything that we shared. I sometimes cry when I am alone at night thinking about how we would laugh and spend time together. I miss the good times so much and find it hard to imagine doing this with someone else. I am also going through a difficult time with a back injury that may require surgery. I have been in allot of pain for 6 months. I have been seeing the great doctors at Johns Hopkins who have tried many non surgical procedures with no success. It has been very depressing to say the least. I just miss that closeness and love that I use to have. I have tried to make this marriage work, but she never wants to talk about it and she feels more free and independent. I really don't know how to feel because she goes to the doctor with me and shows concern for my well being. At the same time I am disappointed that it is ending this way. My head is just spinning. I wonder how I can ever get my life together.

by BTR 21 Posts
Posted on 7/2/2009 10:13 PM

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It sounds like she has a ton of care about you, she loves you but is not in love with you. So you may have lost your wife but maybe not your best friend. If you can handle being just a friend. Maybe not right now, but after the emotions.

You sound like a good person and you're just hurt by all this and confused about the future. Don't look so deep into the future right now, get by day by day, and eventually you'll be able to raise your head and see further down the road.

I wish you the best and I hope you'll find some relief with your back.

by lifeinpurgatory 1830 Posts
Posted on 7/3/2009 12:23 PM

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Wow, where to start. My wife and I had a great time together. I felt like there was always some problems with the marriage, but we worked together well and we cared for each other so much. About a year ago she started going to counseling for some things that happened to her when she was younger. I knew about them for years, and I always protected her and supported her when she needed me. I wasn't that supportive during here counseling and recovery because I was scared. I was scared because even though I knew what happened to her, now it was out in the open and it had to be talked about. It was hard for me to think about what happened to her. She moved out because she wanted time to be alone. After a year and a half, she feels more free and independent with her life, and she doesn't need me to support her anymore. She told me that she doesn't want to be intimate or physical with me anymore, and that she just can't provide the type of life we use to have. I hear her say that she is the one that can be blamed, but I just want to have my old friend back. I do believe she cares for me still, but we have both talked about it and agree that our time is over. I never wanted this, but she won't discuss any of our problems. I have tried my hardest to make this work because I never wanted to give up, but after this much time, I am just so miserable with this lifestyle. I mentioned counseling to her, but I was told its too late for that.

by BTR 21 Posts
Posted on 7/3/2009 7:37 AM

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is she filing for divorce? or is she just testing the waters of being apart? she obviously loves and cares for you if she is going with you to the dr's visits.

what prompted her leaving? what was the marriage like before she left? have you two tried counseling?

by paula1 12662 Posts
Posted on 7/3/2009 6:58 AM

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