When did you take off your wedding ring?

I took mine off several weeks after I moved out. After his affair and deceit about finances I just didn't want to wear it, it meant nothing anymore! I however couldn't stand the look of my naked finger. I purchased a starting over ring to replace my wedding ring. It is very pretty diamonds and pink sapphire. Don't know if it is wrong to wear on my ring finger but it makes me feel better to not see that finger bare! It is a very personal thing. I take mine out sometimes just to look at it, we had it custom made and it is beautiful, now what do I do with it?

I kept my ring on after my wife moved out. Guess I was hoping to reconcile and work my marriage out. One week later she came home and informed me and my son she was moving in with her high school boyfriend and I took it off and left it off and I have no idea where it is at today.

I took my ring off every night, but I didn't put it back on the day after he finally left. What a relief! I did love my wedding ring, but had wanted a divorce for 2 years. I don't even miss wearing it...it makes me feel free. I haven't even filed for divorce yet, but being ringless has made me happy!

It was just a couple of days after she asked for a divorce. We were in bed going to sleep and I just slipped it off my finger and put it in the bedside drawer.  I wanted to be able to put it back on again at a later time. Now, though, I don't know what to do with it. I won't be putting it back on.

I can remember the exact moment I took mine off.  We had been trying to work thru his affair and I had found him with his "girlfriend" yet again.  We were at our kitchen table and I was crying and I told him that those rings and vows had ment something to me but it was obvious that they didn't mean a thing to him.  I took my rings off, set them on the table in front of him and told him I wanted him to leave the house by Saturday, that I couldn't put myself thru it anymore.  I filed for divorce a few weeks later.  That was almost 4 years ago and I can remember it like it was yesterday.

I don't remember exactly, but I think it was about a month after he asked for the divorce.  He took his off immediately after asking for the divorce and would disappear for days ("getting space to think" which I didn't know at the time was actually spending time with his gf).  I took mine off once I had heard enough and accepted that I didn't want to be with someone who could treat me so terribly either.  He put his back on a few days after mine went off.  Then threw a tantrum after I didn't wear mine and took it off for a couple days before wearing it again.  I never put mine back on.  I stuck them in a keepsake box in the back of my closet.  A week or two after I noticed they were missing.  I ended up finding them in my exs sock drawer.  I have no idea how he even figured out where I had put them.  When confronted he said he took them so he could trade them in for a new set (he had decided he wanted to work it out at this point).  I took them back since he was the one who strayed and wanted out anyway.  He later asked for them back a couple of times since I wasn't going to need them anymore.  I moved out of the house about a month later.  I took the rings to a diamond broker a month or so after moving out.  Got $500 for a set that cost $3000 new.  It was strangely satisfying.  I then proceeded to blow it all on new clothes and other fun things.  Maybe not the best financial decision, but it felt so good emotionally I still smile when I think about it.  It was a perfect way to celebrate leaving the old behind and starting over.

Good question and s very significant one. My Hb and I separated 3 weeks ago and were supposed to be keeping an eye on reconciliation. But, things got out of hand, he has been dating online and looking for   NSA encounters and is generally being very spiteful, cruel and mean to me. I wanted to keep the rings on until we were actually divorced, even though I am the one who wanted the separation and divorce in the first place. However, he took his off last week and has been holding himself out to be single. He removed my photos from his facebook page (very immature, imo) and he removed any and all photos of us from his wallet and apartment. I think this is horrible! Especially b/c of the kids. I have everything as is bc I think the kids need stability and normalcy right now. We areent even officially separated yet. So, to answer your question, I finally took my rings off this week. I dont feel good about it at all. I really took those vows seriously and I really feel like I ought to wear my rings until the divorce is final. Moreover, I feel that its a bad example for our kids - one of whom is a teenager. But, whats done is done and I cant put it back on now, can I? That was the most hurtful part. Removing my rings. I still look at my hand  and am in shock. But, its over.

We are separated.  I took mine off after he said he "lost" his.  I'm assuming it was at the request of his girlfriend, but who knows.

Two months after our wedding, we had an arguement, i slept on the couch. When i woke and went to use the restroom, i seen her rings in the bottom of the toilet. That's where they remained until i came home that evening. Nothing was said until a few days had passed and i questioned her about the whereabouts of her rings. She said she threw them in the shitter and they must be at the landfill by now. After a week or so passed and she said she was feeling bad for what she had done, i presented them to her. All was well, until her next episode, she took a hammer to them and pretty much destroyed them for good.

My husband of 26 years has had an "emotional" affair for the past two and has left me. (He's now living with his parents! :) ) Anyway, after many painful discussions I have now realized that he really doesn't love me, at least as a wife, and I'd like to take off my ring. It's not that I want to be seen as single--I'm definitely not ready for that. For me, it symbolizes love and commitment, and I need to face the fact that the love we once had seems to be gone. I need to face that fact so I can file for divorce and start to heal.
My question is, what about my kids? They're 20, 15 and 13. Will it bother them that I don't wear my wedding band? My youngest said it's my decision. I don't want them to think I'm already "looking," because like I said, I'm not.

Mine went off the day he moved out..then I felt guilty..so they went back on...then I was hurt..so they came off..This went on for a while. While we were reconciling ( so to speak) I kept them on until the day I decided that it was truly over.
I tried to hock my diamond last week. It was a 4000$ ring new...they offered me $800.
What a joke. I laughingly told a woman in the store that I was going to sell it to buy a dog...someone to love and adore me and that won't argue..lol.
She couldn't believe I was selling it...I love diamonds! she said and that is gorgous! I just looked at her and laughed...I said I love them to but I am divorced...even though it is a beautiful ring...3/4 carat and about number 5 from the top...(as per the jeweler) This ring holds no sentimental value to me. I am not with him, it is not a family heirloom to pass to my kids..I want a dog and I guess this ring will pay for it...and the obedience school I will send it to.
She just laughed.

Mine was long gone even before I moved out. I had got a job and need some money, I even asked him if I counld poud it and he said yes. When he did'nt get it out I should have know that something was up.

I took mine off right away, but I think there is no "right" answer for this question.  This is a personal choice and should be made with your best interest in mind and what you are most comfortabel with.  For me, i could not wait to get it off, it had no meaning for me, there was too much hurt attached to the rings to continue to wear them.   I knew that there was no hope of reconciliation and I wanted to be completly free of him.  I also did not want to continue to wear them and give him some false sense of hope that it meant something.

Do what you think is best for you, and who cares what else other people think of  your decision.  If people ask questions, let them, and hold your head up high and if you want tell them it is none of their damn business!

STBX's was a family ring that she gave back to my mom 3 mos ago.

I took mine off Sat when I found out what I found out.

Then again, I'm also getting my last name back.

She gave hers back to me. I gave it to her son (by previous marriage) to give back to her, and disposed of it, instead. She didn't seem to care. I took it off when I got back on the road, after a few innocent questions about my wife were posed by other drivers, truck stop waitresses, and shipping clerks during casual conversation. This led to embarrassing answers, so I only plan to put it back on whenever I see her again, unless she ever takes me back.

I had to get my ring fixed at least three time`s during our marriage i kept bending it out of shape crushing my finger.I`m not to good with rings or watches.The last five years at the end of our marriage I new there was a problem and I stopped all to gather to ware it.I new I was married and I was trust worthy.She would only ware hers when we went out.When we got married she did not want a diamond,so I got her ,her birth stone amethyst 7 coarct rock out of the brazilian minds.My brother in law picked it up for me when he was out there,then we had it sized after the marriage,but she had the band for the wedding day.The last time i saw my ring was in my top draw i always new were it was,today I`m not  if she found it yet and did something with it,I bet she hawked it,just like i just found out my boat was stolen last month.

he lost his on our honeymoon.... that should have been an omen.

I took mine off the day I found out he moved a woman in to live with him and we didn't even have a legal separation.  The next day I met with an attorney and started the divorce proceedings.  I gave my engagement ring to my daughter.  the band I put in my jewelry box.  then about 2 years later I disposed of it. 

Neither of us have worn ours for three years.Ostensibly, to get them resized. Then he 'lost' them and I haven't seen them since.

I took mine off the day she told me she had "almost" slept with someone else too.  We decided to work at our marriage and I put mine back on but she said that after I had taken mine off she didn't feel right wearing hers.   I wonder if she'll ever put it on again?

in the beginning i took mine off & on. i wanted to have hope. he took his off before i did. then i finally took it off for good after he told me he "almost" slept with another woman. she's now his new girlfriend. mine's sterling silver, so i'm thinking about selling it. not sure though.

I took my ring off when she said there was no hope of reconciling and that divorce was the only option. That was less than I week after she told me she was "so confused". One day she will have to grow up and face the consequences of her actions, both in why we were married and why she ended it. Right now she is not accountable for anything, she places all the blame on me.

I took mine off about 3 weeks after she said she wanted the divorce. We were still living in our house as we were selling it and we were still going to dinner with each other and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. I remember about a week after I had removed it and we were on our way to dinner she asked me what I had done with my ring? I told her I threw it in a lake...I then laughed and told her the truth, I had it in a ring box in one of my moving boxes.

I asked her what she had done with hers and she said she kept it in her pocket book so she had it with her everywhere she went /boggle...

I still wear mine to spite him, when i see him, its my way of sticking it to him that we are still married.If he wants me to remove them,It is gonna cost him.

I took mine off several months before I left.  It was actually way too big.  But, I still had no desire to wear the danged thing.  I had tried and tried but gave it when it was clear to me that no matter what I needed, all he thought about was sex.