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Haven't had sex in over 2 years - is it ok to just jump the next guy I see?

My story: My husband and I met in college about 15 years ago. He was the handsome Mr. Everything-type, I was “Miss Innocent” from LittleTown, Alabama. I was very young when we started dating. We met on a blind date to a football game. We fell madly in love, got engaged and then married. He is the only man I have ever “been with.”

We are now divorced – he was a doctor; turns out he was playing “doctor” with more than one of his nurses! I should have known something was wrong when every time he hired a new person at the office they would inevitably be female and always younger, blonder and with bigger boobs than the last one he had hired!

So now, I am trying to date. It is hard. Actually, I am not as interested in dating, what I really want is sex. See, because the divorce took a long time and I just wasn’t interested in men for a while, I woke up a few months ago and realized I hadn’t had sex in about, well let’s be honest, 2.5 years. Suddenly, I have gone from uninterested to totally obsessed. Sex is all I think about! I am SEX mad! I scope out every guy I meet – for example, yesterday, like most moms, I did the weekly grocery run. Instead of getting what we need for the week, I am oogling every man in the store! Tall, short, fat, skinny hell, at this point, I think I would do almost anyone! In fact, the guy that took out my groceries wasn’t too bad…. (he was a little smelly from lifting grocery bags all day, I guess). All the way home I imagined I lured him into the Tahoe and jumped him right there in the store parking lot.

But I have had a few dates and well, they have been boring. I couldn’t think about jumping these guys, I was too busy dozing!

So here is the question. Before I wind up jumping someone I regret, how do I get this out of my system? Or is it better to just let go and go to some bar and jump the first guy that looks at you? (Please don’t suggest “taking care of myself” as that only seems to make it worse!) BTW, I have been told I am attractive with a good figure, but that doesn’t seem to help as much as I thought)

Any help appreciated! Thanks....

by bootycall 27 Posts
Posted on 9/15/2008 2:17 PM

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Gosh bootycall, I know how you feel. I went for 15 years out of a 22 year marriage with nothing and so upon filing for divorce, this man appeared out of the blue and he knew exactly what to say and do and I went for it. He turned out to be nothing he seemed and I was so upset. It was like having a divorce within a divorce. The pain was agonizing and then my reputation was in serious trouble since he turned out to be such a yuck person and people just couldn't imagine what the hell I was doing with him.so, just be careful. It was so wonderful to have sex with someone who knew what they were doing but oh the emotional pain afterwards was tough to go through.

by baal 88 Posts
Posted on 9/22/2008 2:19 AM

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Looks to be a problem with Firefox on a Mac. Safari shows all of page 1. Hmmmmm.

by 2much42long 3031 Posts
Posted on 9/21/2008 4:48 PM

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Its sort of counter-intuitive - page 3 are the oldest comments, page 1 newest....

by jackson 723 Posts
Posted on 9/20/2008 1:25 PM

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Something wrong with this thread? I can't see all of page one.

by 2much42long 3031 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 10:03 PM

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The Bell Rang....time to go to class.

by ec 176 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 12:56 PM

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"..." - Wow, look at this blog grow...! And, it was just a few days ago that we conceived it... ;-p

by bp 1239 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 12:42 PM

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People, wow!!! Some of you really pretend to be the bearers of the good order - namely the etiquette? One thing I surely do everywhere (and I am sure some of you “guardians” of the good order didn't do) is I actually read the "Do's" and "Dont's" of this site. I stand by what I wrote because I honestly don't think it was out of the line at all. BC's reaction wasn't even close to what some of you have expressed here! Complete horror. OMG how could Davy say something like that? Really?? And what BC and others explicitly posted here is perfectly appropriate, right!? “Condoms”? “Sex Mad”? “Lure men”? Believe me if a man would have posted a sentence like: "I am mad about sex all I can think of is sex and I am trying to lure ANY woman" He will get arrested!! End of story. So let's put things in perspective shell we? And I took all the postings in the same manner even though I think, this kind of stories don’t belong here. This has nothing to do with divorce. It can/does happen when you are married too. If BC thinks what I said was out of the line, I will apologize to her and wish here good luck (I wish you good luck now by the way, really). I was offering something of a mutual interest nothing more, but if she did not fell off the fence reading my comments, then who are you to judge? And then, Gommez was supporting me because he has some common sense too, seeing nothing wrong with my posting, but some of you (and I will not be wrong saying that those were women, that is why you got so offended), flocked on him and attacked him. You got to be ready to accpet opinions other than your own. Find happy ending (no ambiguous meaning I swear:)) to your problems. Let's move on please!!!

ok I think this is out of hand now,we all have enough drama as it is,let`s not go down this road of drama.But I`ll tell ya CathyJean shower heads and hot tub jets sound like fun to me,and not a committed relationship,what both women and man can ask for.

by steveo 218 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 12:00 PM

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jackson I agree.

by Gomezz 730 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 11:56 AM

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can't we all just agree to disagree and move on?

by jackson 723 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 11:44 AM

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trish
I hope the next time you post to me about anything be truthful.

by Gomezz 730 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 11:07 AM

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trisha
hmmmmmmm edge is that correct. you need to go play somewhere else.

by Gomezz 730 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 11:01 AM

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gomezz,
I have read some of your answers on here. Some of them are on the edge of being inappropriate. Yes, you can give your opinion but don't be crude about it. You've been called on that atitude you sometimes have and you need to reword your reply in a polite way or move on to another topic.

by trisha9054 4967 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 10:56 AM

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LOL bleeding you seem to be the bitty clucking. : )

by Gomezz 730 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 10:50 AM

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Then maybe you better get out of the hen houseGomezz.

by bleedinglovepain 760 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 10:46 AM

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Bleeding, Hmmmmmm feel better? Now I Have the right and if stright talk offends you then sounds personel and you really need to talk to your pastor, me like I said I don't give a rats azz get over it. I call it like I see it. and far as I see it sounds like a gamer. and normaly when a fox gets in the hen house the bitties are the first to cluck before they get eatten. Like I said at least davy had the gonads to speak his mind. now if your offended well if the shoe fits wear it. No confrontation here.

by Gomezz 730 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 10:30 AM

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This is to Gomezz....The way I look at this, the situation with davy had worked it's self out. You, on the other hand, come in and start a whole new confrontation. You come here thinking like a big shot throwing names around,and making it seem like that is the reason why we are here. Which part is that by the way , that we are bitties,or gamers. You had no right to say the things you did. There is no place on this site for that kind of behavior. If you can't control the name calling and the attitude and your manors on this site, then what makes you think any woman would give you a chance in her life. You thought you were helping davy, but you ended up with it all in your face. Your the one thats made the mistake. We don't need that kind of attitude around here. Work it off somewhere else.

by bleedinglovepain 760 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 9:57 AM

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Hmmmm here is is to the one that said somthing about 360 etiquette, well then you need to learn some about it your self. Ok booty this is it. I read what davy said and you know he did not say any thing out of the way. By your name and your story your the one throwing it out there and then you snatch it back. I call that a Gamer and for the rest of you bitties davu did not say any thing bad to bootycall so shut up about him. Heck he at least was very cofident about asking yes he ask. Davy does not have to say he is sorry for any thing he was responding to what is being written hell I would have too ifen I was in the market. Now for the 2nd thing you ladies have to relize your not all that or you would not be here, I already know I am not but hey it does not bother me so as far as passing judgement on davy look at who is spilling the beans here. Booty throws it out there and then has the chance to ride the pony then she runs hmmmmmmmm yep Gamer. You ladies can get mad at me too, me I don't give a chit either way. Now davy I give you kudo's for at least being a man and stepping up sweettttt way to expose some one.

by Gomezz 730 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 8:52 AM

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Way to go Bootycall, hope your date goes well, let us know!

I just re-read Davy's blog and I think he started out meaning well and then strayed off the path with the last few lines. So even though I think he does need to learn the 360 etiquette, maybe we need to cut him some slack and I am sure that 2much42long set him straight.

Sorry didn't mean to get anyone in trouble, just thought the comment was out of line for this site, but you're right Domina323 that is Bootycall's shot and she called it.

by Lisababy 124 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2008 6:23 AM

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Good for you, Bootycall. Go out and have a good time. Forget the granny panties...go sexy. Might as well "dress for success". Remember, condoms have a shelf life. The last thing you want is a little Fido in your belly.

I also think that Davy was out of line, and he owes you (and all of us) an apology. I'll go have a "little chat" with him.

by 2much42long 3031 Posts
Posted on 9/18/2008 10:43 PM

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Good News!

I took my dog to the vet today and I started talking to the cute Vet and, well, I have a date this weekend with Dr Fido!

My thanks to all of you - I really think it is not a coincidence that this happened a few days after I started anonymously but publicly talking about where I was in my life and what I wanted. I have seen the cutie Vet before, he was never interested then! THANK YOU d360!

Ladies - any tips? I was thinking of wearing my old granny undies on the date, as then I would be very uneager to let Dr Woofer see them! (pretty sure I read that somewhere?!). Or I might not care! As we all know know, chances are excellent I wont care in the slightest!!!!

First date in many many years with anyone but X. Very nervous. Yes, I will take condoms! I have been stocking up anticipating a need. There are a million of them in my dresser.

Will keep you posted....

BC

(Davy - thanks for the offer. But I think I want to keep my real life and my site life separate....) BC

by bootycall 27 Posts
Posted on 9/18/2008 10:28 PM

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I'm sure davy will take that back if he knew he offended someone.

by bleedinglovepain 760 Posts
Posted on 9/18/2008 9:58 PM

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I'm sure davy will take that back if he knew he offended someone.

by bleedinglovepain 760 Posts
Posted on 9/18/2008 9:57 PM

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Hey Lisababy, I read that too and went hmmm. Davy seems to be new here, so let's see who's going to read him the riot act!

Being that this is Bootycall's blog, I think she should call the shot on this one. If not, I think we can help guide him to proper 360 etiquette! :-)

Peace!

by Domina323 27 Posts
Posted on 9/18/2008 9:48 PM

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Did anyone inform Davy that this is a blog site for people going thru divorce not a dating service?

Did he just proportion Bootycall for sex or did I read his blog wrong?

by Lisababy 124 Posts
Posted on 9/18/2008 9:31 PM

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