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Male Anger Explained

I have been working with men in a group for 15 years, and what I know for certain is that male anger is rarely about whatever the issue at hand is. Male anger results from men stuffing their pain for a lifetime rather than acknowledging it and working it through so they can let it go. 

In my book, The Key to the Men's Room: What Men Talk About When Women Aren't Around, due out in September, male anger is discussed at length. Men are told as young boys to "act like a man" when they are emotionally or physically hurt. Sadly, men continue this behavior of stuffing their feelings rather than working them out, so the pain lives just below the surface and is triggered easily. Women and children are often the victims of male anger because they are available at home where men tend to rage uncontrollably. I have yet to hear any man's story about his anger that put the blame on his current partner.

I have heard men's stories about being unceremoniously dumped decades before and because they stuffed the pain from the breakup they never recovered from it and their anger over it was always easily triggered because they ignored their pain when it first occurred. Men suffer until they air their issues with other men in a confidential setting.

 


by kensolin   102 Posts 
Posted on 7/8/2008 4:44 PM
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