Started a separation back in 2006; now is discontinued because of spouses "contesting"

My attorney and her attorney's wrote up a "separation agreement" which she never signed, because she changed her mind all the time when it was convienent to waste my parents money by stalling and redefining the separation to suit her wants. The attorney's suggested she go for counseling for her abuse issues, she left their service and has not paid for the legal work they had done for her.
She had worked for a corporate attorney office back in 2000 through 2003, and believes she can represent herself.
My attorney tried unsuccessfully to get our uncontested divorce agreed upon, but she refused to agree, and he requested the judge to set aside the separation and we now are still married, even though I don't see my son or have any contact except over the phone. She refuses to allow me to bring my son here to visit with me and my parents. She refuses to allow me to take my son on vacation, which my parents have scheduled for August in Disney World.