Shock value 

I picked my guy up at the airport yesterday...It was so good to see him...I saw the plane land, it was 15 minutes late....After it touched down, I texted him, "Well, hello sexy traveler." As I was hitting the send button, he sent one telling me he had landed...From there we went back to my work, where there was a retirement party that I had to attend and wanted to as well....

This was the first time I have ever brought him to the armory where I work...This is the first time these guys have ever seen me with another man other than my ex...In fact, over the last year, they are not used to seeing me with anyone at all....I had changed out of uniform into jeans and a nice shirt before going to pick him up...I was wearing sandals and had my hair and makeup done...These guys I work with were staring, I didn't think anything about it until my guy said something...

I told him it was a combination of things...One, a lot of these guys are not used to seeing me in regular clothes with my hair down...They damn sure hardly ever see me in makeup....(not that I consider mascara and eyeliner  a lot of makeup, but it is more than I wear to work)....I told him it was natural that they would check him out this first time they ever saw him...Plus, I am used to being stared at...I have endured a lot of that over the last 4 years working in a combat arms...A lot of them are not used to working with women so they stare when they first meet me until they get used to me...I wouldn't have even noticed it if he hadn't brought it to my attention...

I told him I was sorry if it made him uncomfortable and he said not to worry about it...He did well, he was charming and didn't have a problem walking up and starting a conversation with people...When someone came by to introduce themselves, he did great...People will get used to it or they won't...The funny thing that happened was he told me to sit up....I was leaning over the table talking to him, he looked around and then back at me and said, "You need to sit up, you are showing your boobs." I immediately sat up and looked down...Nope, no boobs showing...So I leaned forward again and looked down, ok, maybe a little cleavage but no danger of a boob falling out or even really showing...I started laughing...I told him that I was definitely in no danger of that happening...It was kind of sweet really but I could have told him that these guys were busy checking him out, not me...To them, I am one of the guys...

I ended up spending the night at his house...My daughter spent the night at her best friend's house and my son is spending most of this week at his cousins' house...We played video games and relaxed...We joked around, we just enjoyed being together...Since my divorce is final officially, we were supposed to go out to a blue's bar last night...I asked him if we could just stay in and enjoy what we were doing instead and go out another night...He said of course...Again, he made me coffee this morning...He is helping a friend build a pole barn today and part of tomorrow...He is going to call me later...We talk everyday, I agree, I think this is a little more than dating but whatever it is, it is working...

Tomorrow, I am going out to the in-laws and watching the parade with them...I don't know if my ex will be there or not...I will be taking my daughter, my son is already there...After the parade, I am coming back home for awhile....I am going to church with my guy and his mom...Then out to dinner...After that, him and I are going back out to the inlaws for the fireworks...Yes, they invited him...At first, I don't think he was going to accept until he knew the divorce was going to be final...Once it was, he agreed to go...I don't know if it will make him uncomfortable or not, I am not sure how it is going to make me feel but I don't want to feel like I am excluding family that has been my family for 20 years from my life...They feel the same...They are willing to embrace him into the fold because he is part of my life...Because he is part of my life and knows they are important to me, he is willing to go there...

The ex's girlfriend has not been invited to any family functions and according to them won't be....I am sure they will eventually give in because it will get to the point they never see my ex if they don't bend a little but for now this is the way it is....I am willing to try this because both are important to me...I hope it doesn't sound like a Jerry Springer show...Maybe it is but I have done nothing I am ashamed of and I refuse to live like I am ashamed of my in-laws and I refuse to act like I am ashamed of my guy either...This is just the update on my holiday weekend...So, I guess there is some shock value to how this weekend is going down but I hope it is still an enjoyable weekend...