A wishlist for my future significant other 

     It feels funny to write a list of ten things that I look for in a potential new boyfriend this early, but that's exactly what I did.  It's not like I am going to interview some poor guy and tell him that he has to have seven or more for me to spend any time with him!  Ten just seemed like a good number.  Friends are full of advice and warnings to be careful about who I get involved with and getting too serious too soon.  I appreciate all of that, but I figured it could not hurt to think about what kind of person I would like to get to know better.  At the very least, my marriage should have taught me something about what I did wrong and the red flags that I need to look for that let me know that I should not get involved with someone... 

     So, here are ten things that I would like to see in a guy...

     1. Respectful. 

     2. Affectionate(does not go stiff like a statue when I give him a hug.  I have had all of my shots, you know.)

     3. Neat.

     4. Clean.  Go ahead and laugh!  You would be surprised at just how many men are not.  You don't have to look like Brad Pitt to keep your clothes clean and brush your hair. 

     5. Treats the women in his life(mother, sisters, friends, co-workers) with respect.  I should have known something was off by the way D talked about his ex-girlfriend.  I doubt that she was the monster he made her out to be.  It would have been nice if he took some responsibility for their break-up and could manage to say a few kind things about her.

     6.  A sense of humor that is not based on mocking others. 

     7. Physically active.  He does not have to be an athlete, but it would be nice to have someone to do stuff with.  Someone who won't look at me like I have three heads when I suggest hiking or ice-skating.

     8.  Polite.

     9. Self-reliant. 

     10.  Communicates with me (beyond hitting me with a club and saying"ugg").

     Does this sound like such a tall order?  What would you put on your list.  i am curious...