headaches 

I had the same problem.  You are focused on your misery to much I know its easy to do.  I gained perspective when someone came to me with a real problem.  No divorce isn't trival but its also not the end of the world or my world.  This persons issues were so bad so terrible that it made me think what the hell is my problem so he left me and doesn't want to be with me.  Oh do I still cry hell yeah, but its for different reasons fear mostly.  Fear that he is right and I am not attractive and won't find someone else.  That no one else will want me.  Yes he was nice enough to lay all that one me as well.  Well I am not the hottest thing around but I also am not unattractive, I am cute and at times can be very pretty. 

Let me ask you this what do you enjoy.  I will tell you what I enjoy walking my dogs, or just in general my dogs.  So I walk them when I am upset or those feelings creep up.  I also like reading so I try to read sometimes I can get lost in it sometimes I can't.  You have to find those things that bring you happiness. 

As I have said in other blogs I wasn't happy before we split I realize that now.  How could I be with what our relationship had become.  I was on the verge of doing something because I couldn't deal with it anymore.  I was more in the mind of counceling but well I think in the long run this was better.  So were you happy before you seperated? 

I had it hard because when we split I lost him, and all our friends you see my girlfriends were all the wives of his co-workers.  Yes so I am starting everything all over.  I found a great group on a site www.meetup.com.  Also look up in your area I haven't gone yet but a co-worker goes to a divorce support group at a church here in town.  It really helps her and where your friends might get tired of you talking about it I am certain you will find people who will be there because they are going through the same thing.